Getting Over Yourself

June 26, 2010

What to do if you realize you’ve given the wrong information to an audience?

Filed under: Tips — Barbara Rocha @ 11:47 am
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Wait until you’re rational before saying anything. Give yourself a moment to discover the appropriate moment and method of handling it.

Sometimes you realize your mistake very quickly because you see an odd expression on people’s faces. At that moment, you can say something like, “Did I say there were no problems with the trial run?” If you’re sure you did, you can then say, “Wow, my wishful thinking must have kicked in.” Otherwise, wait a moment for confirmation of what you said before correcting it.

If it’s much later in the presentation that you realize your mistake, wait until you’ve finished the current thought. Pause, and then say, “It just occurred to me, that I may have misspoken earlier. I’m thinking I said ______, when what I should have said was ___________.”

If no one is likely to have noticed it, you might instead say, “Earlier I was telling you about ___________. And I’d just like to repeat that to make sure I was clear.” And you could give a reason why it’s important to be clear on this point.

As always, the key is not feeling guilty or inept. Keep your good thinking patterns in place and you can correct it without losing the audience in any way.

“One of the secrets of life is to make stepping stones out of stumbling blocks.” Jack Penn


June 3, 2010

Forget about looking at their foreheads

Filed under: Tips — Barbara Rocha @ 9:51 am

Seeing people is really more calming than looking at the wall or at their foreheads. And, eye contact can’t be by rote, either. Eye contact really means paying attention to what’s going on. Look at (and see) people one at a time. Have a conversation with each one. Forget about looking at their foreheads–you’ll lose your energy and your connection.

Pay attention to what you’re saying, pay attention to the people you’re talking to, and pay attention to how their responding. Now you’re connecting and have control over yourself and the situation.

Who wouldn’t be outraged?

Filed under: Uncategorized — Barbara Rocha @ 9:38 am

At least that’s what I thought when I heard a radio political ad proclaiming that the scoundrel (my words) had spent $2300 redecorating his office! I could hear the outrage the speaker’s voice but I wasn’t actually listening and thought he must have said $23,000. The next time it came on I paid a little more attention and, indeed, this low-life had spent $2300 redecorating his office!

It’s true, that how you say something affects the listener’s perception of the importance of your words. But I’d think the people in that voting district might just find this so ludicrous that it has the opposite of the intended effect.

Have passion about your message, yes. But first, have a credible message.

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