Getting Over Yourself

May 30, 2011

What would Will Rogers do?

Filed under: Observations — Barbara Rocha @ 1:17 pm
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I’m sure there are current role models for being able to observe life without making it personal. Will Rogers, as can be seen in the above article/link, was welcome by people on all parts of the political spectrum even though he publicly didn’t agree with those people.

A good example of removing the ego and not giving or taking things personally.


May 24, 2011

Feeling anxious in front of a crowd

Filed under: Tips — Barbara Rocha @ 12:39 pm
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If you’re anxious, you’re probably wondering how it’s going to turn out. Will you remember what to say? Will you say something stupid? Will you make yourself look bad? The irony is that the more time you spend worrying about those things the less time you’re spending on something productive. That worry isn’t productive. And because you’re not keeping your eye on the prize, you’re steering yourself away from the good you could do for this audience and creating high anxiety for yourself.

If you’ll stop worrying about doing a good job and concentrate on delivering something useful to your audience, you’re much more likely to connect with them and get the desired outcome.

It’s not about you. Don’t make about you. Let go of the anxiety. Make everybody happy.

Watch for those political one-liners

Filed under: Observations — Barbara Rocha @ 12:08 pm
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You may need thick skin to run for office but you also need a supply of one-liners to effectively turn away potential attacks or someone trying to lead you down the negativity path.

It’s the perfect season to keep your ears open and be ready to jot down the many examples of what seems to be quick wit (and sometimes is). Those one-liners may also be evidence of a good strategy of identifying possible points of attack and being ready with those one-liners that turn a possible negative into a positive.

Jack Kennedy probably wouldn’t have gotten to The White House without some of the gems he used to turn the conversation. Ronald Reagan mastered the art as have others. And currently, former Governor Tim Pawlenty when questioned about whether he had enough charisma to beat Barack Obama responded, “I’m not running for Entertainer-in-Chief. These are serious times . . . .”

If you know you’re going to face opposition to an idea or position, work on some one-liners of your own. Listen to candidates; learn from their triumphs and mistakes. It’s helpful to be prepared with a short, friendly, non-threatening come back. And most of all, don’t ever take it personally, because if you do, no matter how good the one-liner, you’ll lose the audience.

May 3, 2011

Donald Trump as President?

Filed under: Observations — Barbara Rocha @ 9:26 am

You can get a good start on your education as a speaker by watching Donald Trump. He carries himself as though he belongs wherever he is–he accepts that the space he is in belongs to him. He always speaks with authority, so even the most mundane pronouncement comes across as the final word on that subject. He and George Bush both swagger, but there’s a big difference in the way they do it and how it comes across. (The Donald’s swagger is smoother and works better than Bush’s.)

It’s good to use your space, to be comfortable in your own skin, and to speak with authority. It would work better if he could tell the difference between meaningful and trivial subjects.

Watch him for those things that work for him, and watch him for those that don’t. Speaking with authority when you’re wrong, or speaking with authority on subjects that don’t deserve that much attention works against you. Maybe Donald Trump can get away with it, but I’m pretty sure the rest of us can’t.

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