Getting Over Yourself

November 15, 2011

Pausing with Rick Perry and Herman Cain

Filed under: Uncategorized — Barbara Rocha @ 9:43 am

I keep telling you: pausing is your friend. Here are two Presidential candidates that make my point–if you really look at it. (Let me acknowledge that the kind of spotlight Presidential candidates are under is brutal. But there are lessons we can learn for our lesser spotlighted speaking.)

Governor Perry was on autopilot in the debate when he plunged right into the three departments he would cut and couldn’t remember the third department. Knowing there were three and feeling the pressure of answering immediately, that’s where his focus was–not on the point he was making. You have to be present, in-the-moment. You have to be processing the ideas rather than worrying about the outcome. I don’t know how well he knows his points, but he said it with such energy that apparently it was something he’d all ready prepared. He just didn’t focus before opening his mouth. It would have looked focused if he had and he’d have come up with all three.

Herman Cain, on the other hand, paused a long time when he was asked about Libya. And when you watch it, he didn’t look thoughtful in the pause, he looked like he was scrambling. It wasn’t the fact that he paused that was the problem, it was that he let the question throw him and that was where he was focused.

If you have something to say, and  you’re focused on helping your audience, whatever pause comes as a result will be fine.


November 10, 2011

Just this one thing will make you a better speaker

Filed under: Tips — Barbara Rocha @ 11:02 am
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You can’t learn everything about speaking in my 3-day class but a lot more than you think. But. If you only practice this one thing, you’ll be a much better and happier speaker: get out of the way. Just get out of the way and let your ideas do their job. It’s not about you. It’s always about helping your audience.

The hard part of this is overcoming all those years of worrying about how you are coming across and whether you’re going to remember and if people will like you or use your business. But, since all that worrying has had little in the way of positive results, you should at least be willing to give it up. Start with accepting the logic and being willing to change. From there on, keep practicing shifting your focus. It works. It will work for you.

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